The thing is, and I hate to still be here, really, I made a statement about how personally the shock of Bias' death was as significant to me as, for myself, later, was Rabin's, and as was, earlier and for my parents, JFK's. Then folks started telling me I was exaggerating and it was an insult to compare JFK to Bias. Believe me, I know the difference between a world leader and a cracked out college athlete. But since I brought it up, as a personal story, and used JFK as an example of the shock of the memory (a comparison I would never have made had my parents, who were in Dallas in '63, not made it themselves), I don't really see what I'm not understanding. You, and others, are caught up in comparing JFK and Bias as men. There is no comparison. I brought it up in the context of comparing one shocking, life-changing death with another shocking, life changing death, and how they affected me. That's all, and I've taken great pains to explain this, and if I sound argumentative, it's because I've been saying the same thing over and over; to me (and to my parents and most of my friends), as a Marylander and a twelve year-old, the shock of Len Bias' death was as indelible on my memory as was the shock of JFK's death to those who were alive to hear of it. If you have gripes about my priorities in placing a sports star in such high regard that his death would be such a shocking blow, take it up with my twelve year-old self, or ask any twelve year-old who's more important to them, their favorite sports star or, say, Abraham Lincoln. Seriously, I'm not talking about historical importance here, I'm talking about me. And I'm a little sick of trying to understand something that I not only already know (that there is no comparison between JFK and Len Bias) but that people are using wrongly to tear apart childhood memories that are, twenty years on, still conflicted and still very sad.
Bishop - that's my feeling on the whole Len Bias situation--he chose to take drugs, just like John Belushi,River pheonix,etc. If you choose to screw your life up, you don't deserve sympathy or pity. If that had been my brother,I would not have felt pity or sadness, but anger over him being so stupid and screwing up not only his life but my parents lfe as well. So yes I'm callus when it comes to people and stupidity, if you scsrew your self you get what you deserve.
I remember where I was when I heard the news the way my folks remember Kennedy. So do all my friends. Same here, Hugh. I was a kid touring europe with my class. I was so excited about the celtics getting Bias. I saw his picture in a german newspaper, and though I can't read german, I could make out that something bad had happened. I got confirmation from a phone call a little later. The challenger exploding and bias dying are two events where I remember exactly where I was when I received the news, and exactly how I felt. And to those who jumped on the 'I can't believe you're comparing Bias to kennedy' you really need to read slower or take a reading comprehension class. All I know is that it was the first time I encountered sudden, surprising death, and that it hurt then, and it still hurts, and it's hard to be conciliatory in the face of harsh criticism like on this thread. Again, couldn't say it any better. It was almost a loss of innocence for me. I have nothing but disgust for him, and people like him who have all the talent in the world, who throw it away for a momentary high. If you choose to screw your life up, you don't deserve sympathy or pity. If that had been my brother,I would not have felt pity or sadness You know, I love the internet, and I love sportsfilter, but sometimes I read things that make me glad my interaction with certain people are kept digital, as I'd really hate to meet such hateful, judgmental individuals in person. Such perfection must be a terrible weight to bear.
Good God, can we stop the slapfight now? The man died. He died largely because of his own actions. Some of us were affected by it then and, to a lesser extent, still are today. Some of us just don't give a damn. Now, it's a beautiful day, so get outside and play nice.
Also, you're not understanding what I'm trying to say either, and I'm also giving you the benefit of the doubt as well. In fact, you don't even seem to understand that you're misunderstanding me... It's all so confusing So yes I'm callus when it comes to people and stupidity, if you scsrew your self you get what you deserve The Book of James chapter 3:1-8 My brethren, let not many of you become teachers, knowing that we shall receive a stricter judgment. 2 For we all stumble in many things. If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle the whole body. 3 Indeed,[a] we put bits in horses' mouths that they may obey us, and we turn their whole body. 4 Look also at ships: although they are so large and are driven by fierce winds, they are turned by a very small rudder wherever the pilot desires. 5 Even so the tongue is a little member and boasts great things. See how great a forest a little fire kindles! 6 And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell. 7 For every kind of beast and bird, of reptile and creature of the sea, is tamed and has been tamed by mankind. 8 But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison
Some of us were affected by it then and, to a lesser extent, still are today. Some of us just don't give a damn. I'm completely ok with that. I'm ok with disecting both the good and bad of the dead on sportsfilter. Hell, I'm ok with the comments I linked too. I'm just happy not to know such people.