bdaddy: Anyways, the point of the article is that the FIRST person to run over really is the HERO in this sense as they break away from that unconscious need to conform to do what is RIGHT
Bdaddy makes a good point, although I don't think it's about conforming to what's RIGHT- we all know what Terrell Owens did was "right". Rather, time and again studies and real life have shown that a crowd of people will all stand by and do nothing because there's some subconscious block that prevents people from being the
first to act. I've heard that if you're being attacked, or if you need help, the best thing to do is pick one person- it doesn't matter who- and address them specifically. If you do that, even if that person freezes up, it'll trigger someone else to say "Why aren't you doing anything?" and then
that person will step up. It's called the
bystander effect, and it's unusual for one person to take the initiative immediately (
even though we all know what's right, and any of us in that situation will kick ourselves for not having acted immediately)
BitterOldPunk: Eli and Peyton Manning had been in earlier drinking up a storm, asking if anyone knew where to find any blow, and were currently sitting parked in their Escalade in the alley out back getting their knobs slobbed by a couple of Florida's finest escorts.
Sounds like T.O. is a decent person who knows how to behave. But I can't rip on the Mannings too much, except for their indiscretion and crassness. Lord knows if I was a millionaire sports star, I'd be gracious and polite to waitstaff, keep a public face that was smiling, appreciative of fans, etc... but back at my hotel room I'd be waist-deep in a tangle of the finest escorts that city had to offer. I dream of what it would be like simply to have the ability to throw a baseball 100m.p.h. and how that would change my life. If I were a pro athlete I'd be getting my knob slobbed several times a day, in my car, at my house, etc. But I wouldn't make a spectacle of it in
public, and I certainly wouldn't be asking for blow and being overall exactly the kind of loud, arrogant, gaudy punk that people hate. Also, the Mannings were getting blown in the same car? That seems really kinda gay.
Fuckin' Mannings have shit on the Patriots Superbowl hopes the last two years, so I may be a touch bitter...I don't react well in pressure situations. It really is unfortunate. I think back at the few times I have been in a situation where I should have been better, and I still get mad at myself about it. So, I have no problem commending TO for reacting well and helping out. I'm not surprised though because everything I have heard about his non-football side indicates that he is a genuinely good person.
It's called the bystander effect Thanks for that link Hal. I know the Kitty Genovese story, but I always seem to forget her name.
Also, the Mannings were getting blown in the same car? That seems really kinda gay. As I understand it, they held hands throughout, and orgasmed together.
Lord knows if I was a millionaire sports star, I'd be gracious and polite to waitstaff, keep a public face that was smiling, appreciative of fans, etc... but back at my hotel room I'd be waist-deep in a tangle of the finest escorts that city had to offer my buddies and I used to make the same joke about Janikowski's constant headlines. We would make fun of him, then joke that if we were a young NFL kicker we'd make the headlines every single day :-) Can you imagine how much trouble we got into in our early 20's and that was when we were broke and had to search couch cushions just to scrape together enough for a case of old milwaukee's best? I think back at the few times I have been in a situation where I should have been better, and I still get mad at myself about it Had my share as well. I remember an old lady in the airport falling down and I experienced the bystander affect as I stood and stared, not sure what to do, until I saw another man run over to help. Afterwards I thought "Why didn't I react like that initially?" So, like I said, Kudo's to T.O. as apparently he's a better man than me.
As I understand it, they held hands throughout, and orgasmed together. If the old rumors about Peyton and Kenny Chesney are true, then they may have been holding more than hands. :-)
Sorry, but I do pull over to help out every chance I get. And that's great that you do that. I'm not saying that people who go out of their way to help other people are idiots, I commend people who do such things. /what THX-1138 said.
knowsalittle: Sorry, but I do pull over to help out every chance I get. I guess I am the idiot for expecting the best from humanity on a regular basis instead of lame excuses and lowered expectations. Please excuse me for caring enough to expect other to do so. I don't think caring has a whole lot to do with it, much of the time. I'd say knowing what to do has a lot more to do with it -- people who have the training will automatically step in, people who don't are a lot less likely to. Also, and this may shock you, but a lot of so-called "first aid" training consists of telling people that they should call 911 and not move the patient. That's about 90% of the "treatment" that you'll learn in a Red Cross street first aid course. There's enough emphasis on not intervening that I can see that making people, even people who have first aid training, hesitate to step in.
